So many options, so little patience!
You are correct. Keep the "responds to groove notes" off.
For live playing, I suggest the following:
1. Put it in 16 bit mode
2. Turn off all of the animation features. (They just eat up CPU power)
3. When using the Receptor, play with the unit on the Mixer page. (Again, it saves CPU power)
4. Save everything in both the BFD GUI and the mix page. (Receptor will be happy and you will always get your patch back.)
Also worth noting, if you change patches and you have a kit piece that does not change, it will play the one from the previous patch.
Hope this helps,